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Depressed and suicidal ideation. Don’t think I’ll ever be able to write, think I see the reality over Sal – that I will never be with her, as I would never be with Rach. (retrospective20.7.00 All or nothing thinking) That I have had too much. That suicide, if I could express the reasons for it, would be the best decision. That I will never be loved. Nothing is catharsis. (Retrospective20.7.00 The future from that point has not been so bleak.)

I was looking at straight edge sites today, but I don’t think I could even pull that off. I’m down. I had been promised a job at the Harvester, I went to train on Tuesday and I guess I must have done a bad job. I had tried to be upbeat on walking away, I guess positive thoughts and all that, but they didn’t ring me as they said they would. I felt humiliated and perhaps angry, and so much the archetypal loser standing with Richard and Tim and Nick and co. in the Harvester yesterday, others serving me in the job I didn’t fucking get. I rang them, feeling angry and foolish sitting at the desk with an open telephone directory and a phone perched in front of me as I tried to get the words together, tried to grasp the right tone and vocabulary and preempt the response, would it be sheepish (as it was) or had they simply forgotten. I threw the phone at the door. I can’t believe I can make a mess of even that. Have to waste more time looking. (retrospective: who gives a shit? I am better than them, objectively. I am better than a lot of people that I at times envy and look up to for the virtues that come to most so easily. I work at them and the successes I have mean so much more, especially against the frequent battles I win, and the tiomes they let themselves down. I make excuses for others and yet whatever is good about me I put down to my illness, hatever women sometimes see as good in me; anything.)

 Desperate, I wanted catharsis. I wanted to go for a ride. Anything. Please God grant me something. Just something. I thought I had something so slight, and I didn’t. And I want to let someone know, that it isn’t just the job. I’m not getting stressed over nothing. The sky is falling in. (Retro20.7.2000 and the future has been fine, no less than that of many people. Perhaps more.) The very sky. The responsibility on my shoulders to stay sane in some way. To not let down my housemates. My friends. Just people I know. (Retro20.7.00 how unnecessary is this self-flaggelation; I am not even crazy yet. I have not let myself down. Far from it. And I am beating myself up about the future, letting down others. And they might even understand.) To be gauche, stupid, distant, quiet, unresponsive, aloof with no dispensation, no disclaimers, no forgiveness and no sympathy. I can’t do anything but read the newspapers, try to read novels. I never have had a clear head in my life. What is it like? (Retro20.7.00 I could tell you now but you never know when it is there as you don’t think like this, you don’t analyse everything while it is there.)

 Having to lie on the e-mail. To remember my personality on the telephone to friends I really am not that close to. I’m scared. It’s back. I’m desperate. I don’t see a future. I just want to cry. But I want somebody to cry to.

 Note the pejoritive adjectives ascribed to the jobcentre, and the defensive adjectives applied to myself “not that bad”.. Automatic thoughts here apprehended.

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